Nov
20
2009
Song of the day
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timbaland f. the fray and esthero - undertow.
wow.
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Aug
27
2009
Quote of the day
From the start, then, females are confused about the nature of love. Socialized in the false assumption that we will find love in the place where femaleness is deemed unworthy and consistently devalued, we learn early to pretend that love matters more than anything, when in actuality we know that what matters most, even in the wake of feminist movement, is patriarchal approval. From birth on, most females live in fear that we will be abandoned, that if we step outside the approved circle, we will not be loved.
Given our early obsessions with seducing and pleasing others to affirm our worth, we lose ourselves in the search to be accepted, included, desired. Our talk about love has heretofore primarily been a talk about desire. For the most part, the feminist movement did not change female obsession with love, nor did it offer us new ways to think about love. It told us that we were better off if we stopped thinking about love, if we could live our lives as though love did not matter, because if we did not do so we were in danger of becoming a member of a truly despised female category: “the woman who loves too much.” The irony, of course, is that most of us were not loving too much; we were not loving at all. What we were was emotionally needy, desperate for the recognition (whether from male or female partners) that would prove our worth, our value, our right to be alive on the planet, and we were willing to do anything to get it. As females in a patriarchal culture, we were not slaves of love; most of us were and are slaves of longing — yearning for a master who will set us free and claim us because we cannot claim ourselves.
- bell hooks, Communion: The Female Search for Love
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Jul
21
2009
Video of the day
Sincere or disingenuous?
As plagued as I am with holding grudges, I’m a pretty big advocate for forgiveness and there aren’t many instances in which I think the same punishment should apply to all degrees in a relationship (for example, I think there’s a world of difference between a single indiscretion and your s/o keeping a girlfriend on the side. One can possibly be worked through, the other, not so much).
That being said, I can’t really get behind this. Do I believe that perpetrators of domestic violence can be rehabilitated and should therefore be forgiven? I don’t know because I’ve never been in that situation. I do, however, believe that it’s just too soon for the public (yes, the public — Rihanna was not the only person affected here) to forgive and brush off what he’s guilty of.
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Jul
12
2009
Video of the day
Really wanna work this out, cause I’m tired of fightin’
And I really hope you still want me the way I want you
I said I really wanna work this out, damn girl I’m tryin’
Its no excuse, no excuse…
the only omarion song i’ve ever liked, probably (and unfortunately) because i can relate to it so well…
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Jul
12
2009
Video of the day
This is the best.This is like, a mad fucked up thing to say, but Beyonce better be glad Aaliyah died, because she would have had the game on lock. Also, that’s Aaliyah’s real hair. TAKE NOTE BEYONCE.
100% CO-SIGN. Also, if Aaliyah were still alive, we probably never would’ve been put through Ashanti’s crappy music (and I somehow doubt Ciara would’ve had a career either, since I think she was more Aaliyah’s proper stand-in when Goodies first dropped).
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Jun
25
2009
White Male Seeking Sexy Asian Women
The comments on this article (and not so much the article itself) make me want to barf.
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